Posts Tagged ‘Marriage’

An Important Wedding


One thing that will happen when I go for my holiday away will be that I will be missing a very important wedding. I know, I know – if it’s that important, why would I miss it? Well, it’s because I had booked this flight before the wedding date was confirmed! Important though, because of the people involved – Hubby and I are quite close with them, having gone through much with them. I have to sigh. Nothing can be done…

Let me tell you about this wedding. It’s going to be the most amazing one. The colour scheme to begin with is not the usual white, cream, silver, blue, or even pink. This will be themed in fuchsia, no less! Not only fuchsia, but the other colours are white and purple. Reminds me of the actual flower!

The planning began ages ago, as most wedding are apt to be these days. The couple have spent a lot of time looking for the perfect outfits, the right photographers, the best wedding and dinner venues, and of course, the absolute must-have-one-of-a-kind wedding favours. They have looked at shops and stores, and even online. Actually, there are amazing items on offer online. For instance, look at this site; I mean, check these out, great prices! I am certain that I will be missing a really special event indeed. But I am thankful that I will nonetheless have something uniquely beautiful given to me to commemorate this day.

Weddings Galore!


Three weddings in two weeks!

Three dinners in two weeks!

Three venues in two weeks!

So what did we do? How do we choose?

We decided…. not to go for any!!!

We’d have love to go for all three but we just couldn’t. Listening to the stress stories made us want to tell them to just relax and to get the Bridal Emergency Kit. Some plans are so elaborate that it’s a crisis waiting to happen!

We opted for a quiet evening instead because we have been so busy and tired! IMG_1326

Nest Hideaway


After a busy day at work we left. Hot, sweaty, humid. We headed to a place in the clouds. Well, almost in the clouds. More like in the trees. A cool, picturesque hideaway.

Look outside our bedroom door and see this.

Isn’t this nice! Our home for two nights!

Pearl Anniversary


Soon, Hubby and I will be celebrating our Pearl Wedding Anniversary. That shows our age!

In our day and age, divorce was not as common as today. When a marriage broke down, and there were suspicion of who the father of the children are, , lawyers will advise that paternity  tests be done. Clients are often advised to go for reputable and acceptable procedures to avoid any uncertainty. When matrimonial suits are filed, children are clearly identified, it makes a traumatic event a little manageable.

Having said that, Hubby and I are planning a getaway. But I cant let out the secret details yet….! More to come!



That was surely the wedding of the year! The amount of planning that went into it. I do believe the couple started planning a year ahead. Suitable attire was being sourced from all over the place. Even a trip to another country was contemplated. That was just the clothing. Then there were the other accessories like the veil, the shoes, and even the gloves for the bride. I gather their matching titanium rings were also specially sourced. I suppose when you have that special someone and it is a special moment, then you take special care to make it a special day. I pray that they start, continue and finish well!



While clearing and tidying up recently, I found some old garments which were still good, but I would no longer wear. After all, I didn’t miss them in the first case! One, was a flash from the past – a garter! Now before you go “Ooooo” and give me those looks, let me explain that this was a gift from a friend trying to be cheeky. I never wore it. In fact, I am not sure it will send my Hubby’s heart fluttering at all!

Having said that, we have been attending a marriage enrichment course and have been to advised to indulge in occasional naughtiness with our partners. Makes me wonder if I should have been so quick to toss it out!

A Special Day


This, folks, is our special plate. It was commissioned for us by a former patient of mine. Oh did I not mention? I used to work in England as a nurse and midwife. This commemorative plate was done for me by a this Englishman who somehow took a liking to me. He was so ill, he could barely speak but somehow we clicked.

When I gave him an invitation to my wedding, I knew full well he would not be able to attend. He had this gifted to us instead! Isn’t that lovely?

After he was discharged with his terminal illness, we visited at times. Despite his illness, he remained cheerful and uncomplaining till the end. I attended his funeral service to do the reading of Scriptures.

And today, we have been married for 28 years. Wheeeeeeeeee

The Perfect Relationship?


There are quite a few couples getting married in the next few months. It adds to the busy time of the year.

My parents are about to celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary. Nice. Romantic. I’ll tell you one day how they met!

Meanwhile, imagine going to a matchmaker for marriage and requesting, ‘I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one.’

The matchmaker might say, ‘Your requirements, please.’

The reply – ‘Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don’t go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest.’

I think the matchmaker will listen carefully and reply, ‘I understand what you need; you need a television’!

There is a saying that “A perfect match in marriage can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband”. Why? Because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband, and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife.

Whilst we might laugh at this, you have to admit, it does have some merit!

Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover otherwise ….. and the nightmare begins!

Building Houses and Marriages


Today some friends came over for a visit. They commented how nice our home, but were also surprised at how long it took for us to build the place.

Many would think building your own home is an easy task. Well, we built our own home from scratch. We bought a nice piece of land, did the design with the architect, got the engineers to draw the blue print, had the local authority to approve, even got the geological engineer to check our soil for stability as it was on a hill. We did the piling and got the contractors to build the structures. Then we had still more to do – deciding on the finishing and fittings.

Wall and floor finishes were major decision-making, marriage-stretching issues! Tiles, carpet, timber, laminates, granite or marble? And where?

Well we chose tiles for our external flooring and some of our walls, especially the kitchen. Looking for the tiles alone meant we had to drive all over town to look at samples. It was tedious and tiring. If only we knew some tiles suppliers. We would have saved time and money. And the choices! Wow. So many to ponder over.

Needless to say we eventually finished. AND our marriage is intact… Hmmm, stronger than ever!



This morn, Hubby and I sent our youngest off to school, blessing her as we usually did so. Then we went for breakfast and did some grocery shopping.

During our journey, the car radio happened to be on. The topic was to ask women to call in and express what they liked their husbands to do, or how wonderful their husbands were.

Listening to some of the callers made me consider how difficult it can be to express unconditional love. I remember thinking those same things which the callers expressed – that Hubby would do this and that for me, would express this and that to me, etc. That was a long time ago…..

But I have to say that Hubby didn’t do similarly towards me. His love for me was UNCONDITIONAL. No strings attached.

This is not blind love. He could see flaws in me. He knew I had many areas to work on in my life. But he also knew that the God Who brought us together had begun His work in me and would finish it. That’s what Scriptures promised. And all he had to do was to love me – that’s what Scriptures said he should do.

So he did.

That unconditional accepting love for me was the first thing that endeared him to me.

Unlike any other person I had known, from the moment he saw past the ugly duckling to what He believed God had in store for me, he has been steadfast and never tried to change me. He let God do the improvements while he prayed!

It took me a lot longer to value to myself. I had to work hard to believe not just in my head but also in my heart that the promises God gave applied to me. Having a Hubby like this helped so much!

Now after more than twenty-six years together, we chuckled together as we listened to the radio. And we give thanks for the years past, secure in our love for and commitment to one another for the future. But most of all, secure in the love that brought us together – God’s unconditional love.